ABOUT

Vision

Where men and women are free from the patriarchal narrative of sex and use intimacy to heal and grow.

Purpose

To help men feel who they truly are and connect with intimacy from a place of love.

Mission

Provide men with the tools to shift their mindset on intimacy, master their lifeforce energy and use it to connect with themselves and their partners.

my journey

My story starts with witnessing, supporting and participating in my wife’s journey to heal from sexual trauma. Watching her grow, expand and feel a huge range of feelings, from pure bliss to deep sorrow left me with the undeniable feeling that I didn’t feel much at all, both emotionally and physically. This led to two questions, why don’t I feel much and how do I feel more? And this was the start of my story of reclamation.

why don't i feel much?

My story is a story similar to a lot of guys I know. During my twenties, after a few crippling heart breaks, I set up barriers to protect myself from further pain. But doing so, I disconnected myself from my emotions and was left chasing fleeting moments of love, connection and happiness induced by substances.

Looking back I now know, I was hiding from unresolved pain, adhering to the patriarchal script that masculine men are strong, they aren't vulnerable and they definitely don’t cry. My journey has been a story of reclamation. It has been digging deep into buried memories, still physically residing in my body, still influencing my thoughts and behaviour, and bringing this pain into the light of love and compassion.

how do i feel more?

To guide me on my journey, I have relied on the teachings of Tantra and Taoism to shape my understanding and practice. Breathwork has also been a cornerstone of my practice, especially Biodynamic Breathwork for Trauma Release, a modality of which I am a qualified facilitator. To be brief, often the most simple takeaways are the biggest lessons, the key is to slow down, bring awareness to what is happening in your body in the present moment, smile at it with love and keep that energy moving.

Our Relationship

Where I am now I owe to my wonderful wife, Laura. Her bravery and courage not to settle for less when it comes to potential has been truly inspiring. We have been together almost a decade and our relationship keeps getting better and better. This by all means is no accident, we have been very proactive in keeping it fresh and alive. Through tantric and taoist practices we have expanded our possibilities to whole new levels of connection, intimacy and growth. All of this can be achieved by you as well. Here's another simplified takeaway, the foundation of a loving lasting relationship is acceptance, communication, vulnerability and willingness to grow together.

about me

I am an educator. I have been involved in different forms of teaching for over 15 years. I take pride in my ability to help people go on the journey of acquiring new skills, new ways of seeing and new ways of being. And Fck Patriarchy is exactly that, a journey into a new way of seeing intimacy, different from the status quo dictated in our society.

I am also an artist. Creativity is my passion and I love being part of moments where something new is experienced.

Credentials

Practicing Tantra and Taoist teachings for over 5 year. My main teacher has been my wife - check out the wonderful work she is doing helping women go from pain to pleasure during intimacy.

Trainings

Biodynamic Breathwork for Trauma Release Practitioner
Awaken As Love
Tantra Facilitator Training with Monique Darling and Peter Peterson

Education

PGDE Primary School Education
MSc Education
BA Development Studies

Facilitation

Tantric events in Edinburgh
Monthly Ecstatic Dances in Edinburgh